“Do I want to know more?”
Not so long ago I started down the path of divorce. Quite a relief and before anyone says “Sorry to hear that”, please don’t be it’s a good thing. I dutifully started some therapy as it was quite obvious I was going to need some. A few sessions the topic of dating post-divorce came up. To be quite honest the whole concept of the dating game terrified me, I was thinking to myself “I don’t have time”, “I can’t be bothered” the usual excuses. Anything that could postpone my reintroduction in some vague social circle.
Then one day I was sitting in a friend and colleague’s office on the 36th floor and the topic turned to dating. I explained how I was generally horrified at the prospect, she turned to me and said, “Nick, there is only one rule, the rest you can happily forget about because really they mean nothing.” The next thing she said,
“Do I want to know more?”
“Ask yourself that question after every date, if the answer is ever ‘No’ then it’s time to get out.”
Well a few months pass and July rolls around, I’ve been on google plus a few weeks and meeting people left and right. In the beginning I got into the habit of sending little introductory notes out to people that I was circling, well it seemed the thing to do up until the point I went circle nuts. One of these notes I sent out was to a girl I thought looked interesting. Wasn’t expecting a response either. To my amazement I got a reply. Well I wanted to know more and a smart and witty dialogue ensued. The next day I still wanted to know more, so I messaged back. Well that was July, it is January now, and every day when I wake up I want to know more, and every day I learn something new about her. Not always what I want to learn, but learning nonetheless.
Not entirely sure why I decided to write this post out, but it seemed like something worth saying, and such a small phrase has certainly put me on the right path and I couldn’t be happier.
Not so long ago I started down the path of divorce. Quite a relief and before anyone says “Sorry to hear that”, please don’t be it’s a good thing. I dutifully started some therapy as it was quite obvious I was going to need some. A few sessions the topic of dating post-divorce came up. To be quite honest the whole concept of the dating game terrified me, I was thinking to myself “I don’t have time”, “I can’t be bothered” the usual excuses. Anything that could postpone my reintroduction in some vague social circle.
Then one day I was sitting in a friend and colleague’s office on the 36th floor and the topic turned to dating. I explained how I was generally horrified at the prospect, she turned to me and said, “Nick, there is only one rule, the rest you can happily forget about because really they mean nothing.” The next thing she said,
“Do I want to know more?”
“Ask yourself that question after every date, if the answer is ever ‘No’ then it’s time to get out.”
Well a few months pass and July rolls around, I’ve been on google plus a few weeks and meeting people left and right. In the beginning I got into the habit of sending little introductory notes out to people that I was circling, well it seemed the thing to do up until the point I went circle nuts. One of these notes I sent out was to a girl I thought looked interesting. Wasn’t expecting a response either. To my amazement I got a reply. Well I wanted to know more and a smart and witty dialogue ensued. The next day I still wanted to know more, so I messaged back. Well that was July, it is January now, and every day when I wake up I want to know more, and every day I learn something new about her. Not always what I want to learn, but learning nonetheless.
Not entirely sure why I decided to write this post out, but it seemed like something worth saying, and such a small phrase has certainly put me on the right path and I couldn’t be happier.
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