Adaptation in Communication

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”      Anthony Robbins


The last few months have been really eye-opening for me in the field of inter-personal communication.


You'll likely find me talking about Amy a lot in these blogs, why? Well two reasons, I've found what I believe to be a healthy loving relationship with her, yep head over heels and all that. Also she occupies a lot of my thoughts, a lot of the introspection is driven by a desire to be better for her, not because I have to but rather I want to.


Over the past few months I've found myself adapting communication with Amy, before I met her I was a very verbal person and virtually everything was simply said in a conversation or wasn't said at all.


These days I've learned to read and communicate on different levels, I've learned to listen, not just to what is said in the audible. Rather I've learned to listen through prose and poetry, listen to the chemical, listen to the actions.


Amy is a very creative person and expresses herself a lot through poetry, often I know just how she is feeling from her poetry, what kind of day she is having, I'll be honest sometimes I get a little miffed the Internet knows before I do, but then again she doesn't always write poetry for them, a more than fair trade-off I think. I find myself reading her poetry and blog posts from a different perspective, a window into her heart almost. Coupled with the other forms of communication we share and it paints a very intimate picture.


The chemical one is a little harder and I define this as the way your partner smells on the conscious level and all those pheromones on the subconscious. But you had better be acutely aware of these :)


Actions are one of the traditional methods of non-verbal communication, I've really learned to pay attention here. Not being as creative, well at least not in the artistic sense, my actions to tell Amy the way I feel are little posts for her. Seeing something I might see in a catalog somewhere that I know she would love and sending her a surprise. Little things she will find on her doorstep a week later that let her know I'm thinking of her.


This is all about general awareness, how we can become much more in tune with people by getting beyond what is purely aural and including all forms of communication and painting ourselves a much richer sensory picture of the world.