Well this is a biggie for me, I didn't always be this way either. After a decade with the irrational I found my self planning every thing I said, thinking through all possible outcomes. If I was told something by irrational then I would think through every possible meaning. Well that was doomed to failure as I was applying rational measures. If you try to apply rational to irrational in physics you end up with black holes and shit, I think the same should apply to emotions too.
It's tough to learn to take things at face value and not look for all the hidden meanings. To not analyse what you're about to say for fear of having a wild interpretation applied to it. It's work! To be honest I didn't know where to start. So I started small. I found that proof by example was the best way, every time my own assumptions were correct I found it reinforced it within me. Each time added a brick, a reaffirmation of what my head already knew to be true.
My missus gave me a great way to look at this, I have to get through the 18" of shit between my head and my heart. Each time I reaffirm I wade another step through the poo.
Things are progressing nicely and Amy is extremely patient with me, she is a star. We work together and support each other. I'm a very lucky guy.
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